Rationality versus Intuition

A major reason I began this pilgrimage was to perform a reset in my life, to sell my possessions, abandon my apartment and live as simply as possible. The physical and material aspects of house-cleaning, while not easy, are much easier than the psychological and intellectual ones. You can throw out an old couch but can you throw out a way of thinking? An opinion? A habit? I believe you can, and as I find myself away from home for over 5 months, I have found myself successful in some of this cleaning. This process stems from my Zen Buddhist practice and the concept of returning to a beginner’s mind.  A beginner’s mind being one always coming out of the moment, in the present, not relying on the storehouse of memory, society or intellect to act. To see directly into relationships as if a pure mirror, without the haze and dirt that inhibits and hurts these relationships. I of course mean relationships to people, but I am also talking about relationships to nature, to objects, to thoughts and of course ourselves.

For me, and for many of us, we over-rely on our intellect to guide us in this uncertain world. We often distrust our intuition, our heart or small signs that come to us through the universe. A friend of mine recently said to me, “Men tend to make daily decisions rationally and the most difficult decisions intuitively while women tend to make daily decisions intuitively while making the most difficult decisions rationally.” While this is highly generalized, I can say it is for me, true. Or more accurately, I used to make ALL of my decisions rationally and/or practically, often completely ignoring my intuition. That sort of decision making has kept me in relationships longer than I should have been, sent me on a life path that was not aligned with true self, kept me in a job I was disinterested in because it was the most practical thing to do.

Before this trip, and definitely on it, I find myself beginning to fall on the other side of the coin. For me this is often scary and uncertain. Intellect allows us to put nice little boxes around decisions, to weigh the pros and cons, to move forward with a sense of certainty. Intuition is a curious thing – showing up in dreams, small signs throughout the day and in partial concepts and emotions, never painting a complete picture. When one moves forward with an intuitive decision, they are placing great faith in the unknown, in themselves and their ability to listen to their heart, gut, or the universe depending on where you think intuition lies. I can tell you for sure its not in your head!

Recently I have not felt the creative urge to write, to blog or even to read. I’m playing in the space of intuition, scribbling little notes in my notebook, questioning EVERYTHING I have ever thought or believed. I’m struggling to take off the chains of the past that I’ve allowed to define me. Yes, my name is Keith, I grew up here, went to school here, had this training and this job, lived here, traveled here, etc, etc. BUT, that is not who I am, right now. That is the path my body and mind have taken to reach this particular place in space and time. I’m not suggesting ignoring the past, but when someone asks you, “Who are you?”, don’t take that question lightly. Great masters have sat in caves for a decade holding only this question. Or more modernly, a quote from the book, Fight Club: “You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fucking khakis. You’re the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world”.

Not only do you create an idea of who you are, but your friends, your partners and your families often heavily reinforce this. An astrological reading I once received informed me that this is especially difficult for me – that people in my life often see me as an image of the past, that I can struggle to redefine myself around those I spend a lot of time with. Who knows if its different for me than anyone else – but I am aware of this difficulty. I find myself wanting to surround myself with people who DO allow their own images of me to change, to shatter old boxes and those that give me space to grow. I think about this a lot. Only the enlightened can truly see other individuals as momentary manifestations of a divine force, not images from their own memory and opinion. The rest of us, as it is human nature, tend to create images of those close to us, its easier and safer (If a masked man comes at you with a baseball bat, you may want to rely on a few stereotypes). BUT, when a loved one says or does something that is not part of your image, we struggle, we say “I don’t know you!” That is really like saying, “You are not acting in a way consistent with my image of you!”. Often this image is our own projection from the past of what is right, what is wrong, a belief that our path in life and view of truth is the same as everyone else’s. I’ve written about how one of the things I struggle most with while traveling is not finding people to connect to. As I write this blog, however, I realize that this is because it is easier and more comfortable to sit in other people’s boxes at home than to express yourself anew all the time. So we all end up creating these images and boxes and never truly communicating soul to soul with those most close to us. More recently I’ve been on a few guided trips where I was able to spend time with the same people for a couple weeks. I truly enjoyed the opportunity to talk, to share, to experiment in this space of a present relationship, one without a past. Yesterday, I said to someone, “I can’t believe how much I shared with you, I would often not share that much with someone from home”. Why not??? Because it would force me out of that comfortable box! Well, sorry everyone, but I won’t sit in your box anymore.

So let me pose the question – who exactly are YOU?

4 thoughts on “Rationality versus Intuition

  1. Keith,
    You pose very interesting questions and points. Regarding intuition vs. rationality, that is a struggle I have always had. It seems to be a tough balancing act between the two. I believe intuition is a true gift, that is too often ignored. Not only do I believe it can guide us to a happier, more fulfilled life, but it also serves as a survival mechanism. Why do I feel Ok walking at night on most nights, but every now and again it doesn’t seem like such a good idea? Why do you meet someone new that seems really cool & fun, but then meet someone new and they seem creepy? What gives off the “creepy” vibe? This is a conversation that could go so many different places and take hours. This topic is so intriguing to me…I look forward to having a drink (or ten) with you and discussing this.

    Regarding the question – who are YOU? That is difficult. First, to answer that, we need to separate what we think we are, what we hope we are and what we want to be from who we really are. I read that on personality tests almost every checks off that they are spontaneous. It sounds fun and enticing and cool. Come on, how many people are REALLY spontaneous? Majority of people are on a tight schedule Mon-Fri. and plan out their weekends very carefully to make the most of every minute off work. Deciding to catch a movie last minute is not spontaneous either. So, if someone is not spontaneous, but wants to be…what does that make them? What if someone forces their self to be spontaneous, does it count if it is a conscious effort? This too, is a conversation that would be so much fun to have with a drink and with a bonfire…and s’mores:)

    Keith, you are thought provoking and inspiring. We hope you are well. Miss you and can’t wait to see.

  2. helo guys,

    Keith, you have just enlightened my thinking. im about to make a life-threatning decision with two guys. i had to search for decisions.

    Im caught in-between who i am and who i want to be. People like to confuse these two. i do that too. well i want to be successful with a Jaguar on my garage, i want a classy lifestyle, i want to have 4 kids with a loving and adorable man who will NEVER cheat on me. Well, after serious thoughts, i have realised the consequences of this life i want to choose for myself and i have not reached the precise conclusion but from what i have learnt, its nasty.

    well at the same time, i struggle to actually define myself. i react in a different way when surrounded by other people than when im alone. i also react differently when im with my boyfriend. now the question dat kills me is, who am i? i can not totally define this one.

  3. Wisdom is knowing when to use Intuition and when to use Rationality. Paraphrasing an old Zen saying; “you dont cut down trees with a hammer, and break up stones with a saw”

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